Being emotionally unavailable is essentially about building up a barrier that prevents people from getting close to you. It’s not a gender thing, it’s common to both genders.
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Being emotionally unavailable is essentially about building up a barrier that prevents people from getting close to you. It’s not a gender thing, it’s common to both genders.
I think people are drawn to emotionally unavailable people because they feel familiar and comfortable with them. The brain is drawn to partners that feel familiar because it recreates early parent-child dynamics. If you find yourself constantly choosing emotionally unavailable partners, when you dig into your past you might find that this dynamic is actually a familiar one. Perhaps one or both of your parents were physically or emotionally absent when you were growing up, and your emotional needs went unmet.
The major reason why you feel attracted to emotionally unavailable people is because you settle for less. You accept the love you think you deserve and this is where you might go wrong. When someone who is emotionally unavailable gives you attention, you instantly feel an attraction because somewhere deep down you resonate with them. It gets easier for you to express yourself and before you know it, you are in a trap.