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I’m a new mom and it’s still new to me having a child of my own. How do I adjust my life to accommodate my child? How do I adjust to the new life of being a mom?
I never really want a baby and I’ve always made this known to my partner even before we got married. However, few years into marriage, I started to feel more comfortable with the idea of having a child because of my husband. I felt comfortable enough in our relationship, as well as comfortable enough with him and his ability to be the father for our child, then I started entertaining the thoughts of having a baby. So we both started started and I decided to get off birth control. Yes I wanted a baby but I was still shocked when we found out I was pregnant. The bigger shock came when I had my baby and it hit me that I just became a mom, and my husband, a dad! Everyone told me being a mom hits differently, and that it would change me. It indeed changed me. It changed my perspective on a lot of things. Some days I felt on top of things, and other days I felt like I was drowning. The hormones and the sleep deprivation certainly weren’t helping either. Learn to accept that your life will be different the moment you become a mom. That doesn’t mean that you should feel guilty for missing the ease of your previous life. Always knows that it’s going to be okay and no matter how crazy life becomes, or how overwhelmed you feel at the time, just know that everything will be okay. You are stronger than you know and you can handle anything that life throws at you. Just take a deep breath and tackle the problem one step at a time. Always enjoy the little moments. I’m convinced that motherhood is all about waiting for the brief moments of joy in between the moments of crazy.Take the time to appreciate those little moments when the happen. Those baby giggles, smiles, and snuggles will not always last. Enjoy them while you can. No one loves being a mom every day, it is okay and completely normal to not love being a mom every single day. That does not make you a bad parent. It makes you human. On bad days, make a little extra time to do something for yourself. Practice some self-care, take the time that you need to rejuvenate yourself. You will do just fine.
Before I had my first baby, I was such a party butterfly. I was always at every party, welcoming my first child, I had no choice than to curb unnecessary party going. I started going to parties only when I needed to unwind and take a break from “being a new mom”. Adjusting to new status is not entirely an easy task as it taking up a whole new way of living. Know that raising a baby is hard and tedious, so don’t be ashamed to ask for help. There are times your hormones will take over and you feel some type of way, take time to relax. Trust your instincts and always remember it will flow naturally.