There’s a colleague at work who’s been checking me out, we kind of relate smoothly. Don’t know if it’s a good idea we go out.
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There’s a colleague at work who’s been checking me out, we kind of relate smoothly. Don’t know if it’s a good idea we go out.
Its not that it’s a bad thing to, the bad part comes when the break up comes along especially if it’s a bad one. Then you are stuck in a job where life goes on, and you get to see them move on with someone else, and all you have are the memories. What’s worse is that you get to watch it all play out in person, and wonder why it couldn’t or didn’t work out as well for you. You know how they laugh, all the gestures that came with it, and so many other things, intimate things, and that’s not an easy load to carry. Just because you both agree at the beginning, that no matter what, you will remain friends and part amicably , is a whole lot different than when you have to actually do it for real. I think that is why in a lot of work places, they do not allow interdepartmental relationships, as they can turn out to cause havoc not only for the couple. It can also cause havoc, for everyone around them in the work environment. I am not saying it can’t work, anything can work if both people are engaged and making an effort. I am just saying before you do it, stop and consider all sides of the equation.
I never judge people who fall in love with their colleagues. People spend 8hours at work and sometimes you go for coffee, have lunch, happy hour and all that can turn into friendship. You develop trust and feel safe around your colleague. This is exactly how in a normal life relationship starts. Even psychologist falls in love with his or her patient because deep in side we are all human beings and need empathy, want to share our thoughts and someone to hear us out.
I personally think that being in love is great. It does not matter whether the person is your colleague, from another country, has different upbringing or any other race than you. What matters is that you being happy and safe in your relationship.
However, at workplace if the relationship does not work you have to see your ex every day and this is the most painful situation one can face. Because you literally cannot recover easily. Moreover, if you are working on the same project it might be not easy. Many people leave their jobs just not to see or feel the pain of the break up.