I’m so livid right now, I just found out my boyfriend is actually trans. Not like I have an issue with it but he ought to have told me.
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I’m so livid right now, I just found out my boyfriend is actually trans. Not like I have an issue with it but he ought to have told me.
This was a huge and very obvious potential deal breaker that was hidden from you and should have been above board from the beginning so that you could make your own informed decision long before your emotions and hopes got involved. You are in no way in the wrong here.
Left to me, I wouldn’t worry much. He must have his reasons and not that it’s because he doesn’t trust you, that’s likely not the case. I also don’t think it would be wrong to tell him your feelings were a little hurt by him not being open. If it was just the fact that he didn’t tell you he was trans I don’t think it would be an issue, but the fact that you were worrying about him being sad and he wouldn’t tell you why doesn’t seem very healthy to me.