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I’m in my early twenties, and I feel like a failure, mostly because I’m not financially independent. How can I overcome this?
First, remember that you’re only in your 20s, you’ve got time, and getting financially on your feet takes exactly that— time. It is frustrating, especially when you are dependent on others, but putting in the hours and securing a savings is really all you can do. I understand it is extremely frustrating when you feel like you aren’t pulling your weight and even more so when you are not able to do so. It is perfectly normal and honestly good for personal development to be concious of areas you are not excelling in. I suggest you take that energy and channel it to something productive, like helping around more. By doing things that you know need to be done, you’re helping lift the weight and showing your appreciation while at the same time satisfying your need to help them. Everyone wins! If you find yourself still wishing you could do more, pick up part time work. Babysit, mow lawns, whatever. Every little bit of help is appreciated greatly, and you showing initiative to help will not only help you in achieving your personal goals, but will help the family as a whole achieve greater things.
No matter what you do, always take a moment each day to reflect upon what you achieved during the day and allow yourself to feel proud of it. Life is a hustle, and a good hustle always takes time. Take time to appreciate the small victories and before you know it, you’ll be celebrating the big ones!
There is really nothing much you can do in your early twenties, of course except you’re a very early starter. You’re just too young to get good work. Concentrate on getting a good education and a decent job, because you will be in a vastly better position to help yourself and those around you after that. Until then, if you can become financially independent, it will ease your financial burden. Take comfort that you are doing the best things you can do to help yourself and others you might feel responsible to. Don’t shoulder responsibilities for other people at this age. Although I find you to be an admirable young person, just work on getting it right for you right now. Then, if you master that, you can help your others, if you have the funds.