I’m currently at a stage in life where I need to make more and meaning friends but I can’t seem to really let my guards down. I seem to push them away before they even try to get access to me. How do I fix this?
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I’m currently at a stage in life where I need to make more and meaning friends but I can’t seem to really let my guards down. I seem to push them away before they even try to get access to me. How do I fix this?
You may have built the walls around because someone may have used you or hurt you or broken your trust. But it is very important to understand that not everyone is same. Every being in this planet is different from each other no one is the exact copy of other. And I also suggest you to not trust anyone easily. Yes I know it’s difficult and confusing but don’t trust anyone completely. Don’t trust so much anyone that you will become vulnerable. Just trust so much that you could determine if the person is deserving or not.
This wall of defense often has its roots in the past some where. You got to identify that root before you can address it. It’s not that easy but not impossible as well. I suggest you go out and surround yourself with new people and see how you act around them. You could join a club, take a class somewhere, or join a church. Find out what the real you is like. Then be the real you around everyone including the people that are already close to you.