If a relationship seems to not be working out, what do you do to make it work?
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If a relationship seems to not be working out, what do you do to make it work?
There is a lot of serious work and effort that go into making a relationship work, that is why before you even think you want to put in effort and the work, your special person must be willing to do the same. Put in a lot of effort. Real love has labour attached. You should both be actively trying to better the other’s life — the suggestion about anticipating needs is solid. Empathize and put yourself in their shoes and ask what you’d want done for you, and go do that thing. The longest and best relationships I’m aware of have all had a lot of work put into them. Talk about things as soon as they’re things and before they are problems, but give yourself some space to think it over before saying something. I like to set irritations aside for at least 24h; sleeping on it either reveals something as trivia not worth mentioning, or gives me time to figure out what some constructive, compromise-oriented solutions might be.
The truth is, we’re all works in progress, and our relationship probably isn’t perfect, but it can be the best and healthiest if you two would have eachother’s back. If something is bothering you, speak up, even if it’s really hard. If your partner is a good one, they will be there to talk things through with you and you can address the issue together. Bottling things up or judging them without giving them a chance to defend themselves isn’t fair. Sometimes there are misunderstandings and the only way to see eye to eye is to communicate frankly and honestly. Show them you love them and are thinking of them with your actions. Leave little love notes on the mirror, pick them up their favorite snack while you’re shopping, the smallest gestures can go a long way.