She’s never happy to go to school, always go sad and come back sad. There was a morning she cried and said to me “mommy, I don’t wanna go there anymore”. I was so heart broken I decided to let her stay back for that day. Then I went to her school to make a complaint, I’m not sure there are serious changes. She’s still the same. I really want to help her stop the bullying, I know what it can do to her if it doesn’t stop, and I’m really scared.
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Keep nurturing your daughter. Keep enjoying time together doing the things you both enjoy. Keep having expectations of her to be kind and helpful. Don’t turn this of hers challenge with other kids into the only thing in her life. Give her space where she is not under pressure. Enlarge your social life. Entertain at home. Enjoy being a social person and talk about the stuff that happens in your life at dinner with your family.
In short, have faith in your child to work out the problem while supporting them, giving their whole brain time to think and modeling for them in your own life. When incidents of bullying, emphasize what the bullies did that was wrong. Your daughter hasn’t done anything wrong. Turn the conversation to what your daughter does that you are proud of like going to school, being kind, making stuff etc.
Sometimes it helps to switch schools as well, get your child away from the bad apples. I believe some schools have more of a “culture” that promotes bullying. Her new school may still have bullies but not at nearly the magnitude the other school. Make sure your child knows home is the safe space. It helps to tell them that leaders are often bullied, and dumb people think smart people are crazy. The most important thing for your child is a strong support network. Let your child know that they are not the only one.