Myself and my wife just got separated, it’s been 4months. I’ve been trying to be a responsible father to my son, who happens to stay with my ex-wife. We get along well, but my ex-wife recently started keeping him away from me. She’s always coming up with excuses on why I can’t see him. Is this how coparenting works?
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Co-parenting is all about the child. While at that, you make sure their emotional, physical, and educational needs are met. It is simply same way you will train your child if you and your partner were still together, so it’s just like taking another route to fulfilling that role. You teach them how to communicate their needs, and how to follow their dreams. You love and support them, and you help keep them safe. Children need to see the important adults in their lives being stable, so you have to model that responsible life. There’s no room for lies, screaming, and instability especially while coparenting. It is your duty to make sure that you do your best for them. This means that if you end up splitting from their other parent, that you do so in a manner that is as stable as possible. No screaming matches, no using children as pawns to hurt the other, no badmouthing each other in front of them. They don’t deserve that. Be ready to raising your little one(s) into amazing human beings.
Some of the challenges you’re likely to face as a coparent is lack of respect, if you don’t respect the other parent of your child, your child won’t respect them either. You should not forget that along with being the mother/father of your child, they are also an individual who deserves respect. This teaches your child to respect everyone.
Both of you cannot have the same schedule. This schedule change gets a little challenging for the kids to adopt. Both parents can expect different disciplinary behaviors from the kid. For this, the parents need to cooperate and do not overwhelm the kid with rules.