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My wife just got her second breast removed, and ever since, she’s been so dejected, sad, she wouldn’t even go out. We got some silicons boobs but she wouldn’t use them. I can’t say I feel her pains directly but I really know she’s been in so much pain after the second removal. How can I help her?
It just kind of grows on you. Nothing will feel quite right for a long time, and you will never be the old you. Be busy. Do a lot of self care. Yoga. Eventually you will realize you haven’t been walking on eggshells. Depression and sadness are always lurking. There will be at least some mild PTSD. After breast cancer treatment, you will no longer be spending a lot of time at doctors’ appointments. You will no longer be experiencing the effects of chemo and radiation if you had those treatments. You should have the time and energy to resume your normal activities. A double mastectomy should not change the way that you live your life. Probably, the biggest problem is the fear of the cancer recurring; that fear will diminish with time. There are online breast cancer support groups where you can give and receive support with others in your same situation.
There is no right or wrong way to feel about yourself and your body after a mastectomy operation. As fighters of breast cancer it is easy to feel that to grieve the loss of a breast is shallow. However the most important thing that we can do is give ourselves the necessary time to go through this process by accepting our feelings, both positive and negative. It is normal to feel sad and we must be kind to ourselves in accepting all our emotions as they come.
Every woman’s journey is different and unique, so listening to your feelings and emotions is an integral part of the healing process and an important things to do in order to move forwards. Talking to other women who have had the same experience or talking to family and friends about how you are feeling will help you to process this new chapter of your life and will help you move forwards into this new chapter of your life feeling loved and supported.