My wife gave me a “free pass” to cheat. I did, but now she wants one but I don’t want her to. What do I do?
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My wife gave me a “free pass” to cheat. I did, but now she wants one but I don’t want her to. What do I do?
It depends on the agreement. Was there a free pass both ways in the agreement? If it’s something she’s pressing on you now, there is no obligation. Her decision had no conditions. But why did she allow you that? Did you ask or did she offer cold (maybe with a guy she knows in mind)… We are individuals, so what is acceptable to one of you is not necessarily to another. So, there’s no obligation apart from your double standards, but it does sound like you have a moral obligation to allow her. If you had a principled objection to sex outside you should have not taken advantage of it.
Let her have that moment. You were so open minded to go outside of the marriage why not now. You place control over your woman but not yourself. My advice is to next time think about the other person would you want them to go out and sleep with someone else also. Tell her then that you made a mistake in accepting to sleep outside of the marriage and will never do it again. To me I feel that you are weak minded. A woman ask that to see if you will stand up and say no that you don’t need that. Of course she would want to go out there next. Men learn to respect that. Sometimes men can manipulate a woman to come up with that decision also. Have you ever joked around about having someone outside of the marriage. Many things can come in to play. If you don’t want her to go out there apologize to her as if you cheated and you will never do it again. This is me as a woman looking at the situation because I have also been in that situation. She probably start feeling uncertain about how you felt is she the one you truly want and need for life. You should have reassured her not take on someone else.