How do you hold conversations with a conversational narcissist who constantly make the conversations about them?
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If an exit is not an opportunity and you are stuck listening to this person, one strategy is find something, anything, in what they are saying that interests you and then asking them directly about it. Thus guiding them to talk about something you might find more interesting or useful. I allow people to talk about themselves if they say something interesting. I often end up learning something new. If they want to brag about themselves, i allow them that too and in fact take part in it if they want to feel good about themselves.
A narcissist will perhaps listen to you talk if you are saying wonderful things about them. So if you need them to listen to something you have to say, try sandwiching it between two compliments.
Narcissist is really kind of a harsh word to use here, and you’re assigning diagnoses to people. It could be true that the person truly enjoys only talking about themself, or it could be that you don’t readily offer information about yourself and they’re just talking to fill up the silence. Instead of calling them a conversational narcissist, why don’t you take the middle road and say “hey, is there anything you want to know about me? You could ask me any question” and see what she says?