If you went on date with someone for the first time, are you likely to split the bill with them?
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If you went on date with someone for the first time, are you likely to split the bill with them?
I always propose splitting and, as a woman, I think it’s the safest and most correct thing to do.
When I was younger and inexperienced -and why not, a bit broke- I went to a lot dates where the man would offer to pay and I, very thankfully, accepted. In many of those dates, later, the men would make advances and if I refused them or even showed a bit of hesitation, the first words they would tell me were: “But I payed for dinner”. It made everything more uncomfortable and less simple than it should have been. As I matured and gained a bit of self-confidence, I began proposing to split the bill. Most of the times the guy would accept it gracefully and it would be fine, but in a few occasions they would just refuse to let me pay for my half. Big red flag. On those rare occassions I would excuse myself, as I was going to the bathroom, discreetly pay for my half on the counter, and laugh it off when the bill arrived half payed to the table. No second dates, no problem.
There are still a lot of men out there who think they can buy sex with you just paying for a dinner. They don’t wear bright neon signs pointing at them. You never know who your date really is and it never hurts to be a little bit cautious. That’s why I always insist on splitting the bill.
Yes. The very first time I went on a date with my now current boyfriend, I offered to split the bill and we had now been into probably 50+ dates and we’re still paying for ourselves or half for shared items. Though we’re not necessarily holding out our calculators for every bill; normally, we’d pay what we can (whoever gets access to their wallets first) and keep the receipt then just divide our actual shares after the date. Besides, we know that we will eventually be sharing more things between us, and it’s a good practice to understand the burden of paying for our bills early on.
But the real reason why I insisted to pay for my part for our very first date (some will argue that the one who initiated the first date must be willing to pay, and he invited me) was because I found our date as a mutual arrangement. He asked me, and I accepted, meaning, I am also interested in seeing him. In my part of the world where guys show interest by asking and paying for a date, it was my own way to show my reciprocation — agreeing and paying for the date, as well. Now, way after our first date, probably some 20+ dates later, he told me that he had always split the bill for the dates, and I was the only girl he offered to pay for. Feeling special, I asked him why he did that, and he told me that it’s because he knew that I’d offer to split the bill.