I have friends that try their best to stay away from their children, they seem to hate them and they loved them when they had just given birth, why is this?
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Most parents will acknowledge that children are hard work, but are likely to say the rewards outweigh the challenges. To feel differently is almost unspeakable, but there are women who regret having children.
The only example I have is myself.
I never wanted to have children. I never felt obliged as a female to reproduce. I am the youngest child of three from an unhappy marriage. We have no close family this side of the ocean. Never held a baby. Never had any experience caring for the physical needs of another. Never thought of myself as maternal, although I have always loved all animals and nature.
When I got married, in my mid 30’s, I made it clear it was not in order to start a family. I could not wrap my head around the undertaking of caring and raising a little human being. I felt flawed and did not want to be entrusted with such a huge responsibility. My husband only asked that I would consider it. I knew he would be a good husband, and I agreed.
A couple years married, after a lot of pros and cons, we decided to have a baby.
I was happy before I became a mother. I am happy now as a mother. As a result, I even have patience now for other peoples kids and teenagers. I’ve determined that there is a chemical change that happens in the brain. I feel maternal now and couldn’t be happier. I think nature does this not only in order for you to be a good parent, but also to push us to reproduce. Every snap crackle pop in our bodies wanted to have a second baby – but we would sit on opposite sides of the room and wait for the feeling to pass.