In marriage, women are often seen changing and taking up their husband’s last name. Why don’t men do the same?
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A childhood friend of mine recently got married and her husband took her name. I gained respect for the guy because of this. It shows how confident he is in his relationship and how open-minded he is. As a woman, if I end up marrying a man one day, I would be beyond excited and flattered if he chooses to take my last name. However, I’m not expecting that. I plan on either hyphenating or keeping my last name. I’m not planning on having kids, so that wouldn’t be an issue. However, if we do decide to adopt, I’d hope he would be okay with making the kid’s last name hyphenated. I feel like that’s fair.
I suppose most men have never considered that they would ever change their last name, or that they would ever be requested to. Women, on the other hand, are often raised with the belief that they will someday get married and take somebody else’s name. In some cases, they might have dreamed and hoped to take the name of their marriage partner. Given that marriage as an institution is already heavily embedded in tradition, it’s really easy to just go with the flow.