I feel it’s totally uncool to just suddenly decide to leave a relationship without giving no proper explanation to the significant partner, especially if there was no fight or argument. Why do people do that? Leaving a relationship as though the other person is insignificant.
Why do partners just wake up one day and decide to leave a relationship without any clear explanation?
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If you and your ex-boyfriend have broken up before, then there is a good chance that your ex believes you have talked through your problems and tried to resolve the issues enough times before. So, no need to rehash the situation again. Under circumstances where you have had multiple breakups with your ex it is very likely that he believes that everything that can be discussed, has been discussed already and that there is no benefit in having the same conversation repeatedly. I remember a time when I broke up with someone many years ago and we got back together a few times. Over the holidays they rang every single day to try and negotiate their way out of a breakup. Eventually I stopped answering their calls because I found it annoying but also because everything about the relationship had already been discussed many times…. I had no new information I could give them. If you have broken up with your ex-boyfriend several times before, he may think that you don’t need an explanation as you have already had one and know everything there is to know.
You boyfriend is either afraid, immature, in denial, cowardly, insensitive, self possessed or a combination of those things and cares so little about your feelings or how this terrible news is going to impact you. He proceeds anyway with giving you the bad news in the hopes of getting it over with as quickly as possible.
As you probably will agree, anytime your boyfriend pulls a stunt like this, there is not just something wrong with the state of the relationship, but there is something wrong with him. Breakups are hard enough to deal with.
When you have to deal with the pain of not knowing what you did wrong (if anything) and why he just dropped you from his life and gave up on even trying – never mind his failure to explain why he is behaving with such cruelty – it makes the breakup recovery period all the more difficult.