It may seem mysterious, but it’s quite common to find self-sabotaging behaviors in people. I undermine my own goals and values, I know what’s good for me and all but I never seem to demo myself great enough to merit them.
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It may seem mysterious, but it’s quite common to find self-sabotaging behaviors in people. I undermine my own goals and values, I know what’s good for me and all but I never seem to demo myself great enough to merit them.
To get to the root reason why you m self-sabotage, it takes only one question to ask yourself. Why? Why am I self-sabotaging when things are going so well? Why do I feel so low? Why do I think so poorly of myself? Most people have a gauge of what is normal for their daily life. Whether it be positive or negative. If your norm gets off-kilter and things go better than they should, according to your Norm. Then it’s time to self sabotage. Then things can get back on track where they should be in the negative.
I myself, I am a self saboteur! I can come up with some doozies that I don’t even see coming until The Bitter End. It’s amazing how subconsciously we can go to the extremes.
Sabotage is normally an indication that we don’t want to do what we are doing or that we do but secretly we feel overwhelmed and unready. If you quit your projects because you were not ready, all you need to do is find out what would make you ready and re-approach them. If you failed or quit because you did not wish to do them, you need to go back and work out why you keep selecting things to do that you don’t want to do. Appeasing others will not make you happy; and it may not even make them happy. Stop basing decisions them on pleasing others or meeting some kind of external values and start making decisions that come from your most authentic you.