My aunt’s child (13) told her he doesn’t want to go to school anymore, he however told her what he wants to do and hopes that she supports him.
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My aunt’s child (13) told her he doesn’t want to go to school anymore, he however told her what he wants to do and hopes that she supports him.
I am fully aware that such belief exists, but I have never came across any credible statistics to really support it – at least for region where I live. My own observations also do not support this theory – most girls, whom I could describe as smart, have no more problems to establish romantic relationships with guys than their less smart peers. There are exceptions, of course, but each such case have their reasons – usually it is related with some flaw of social skills, social awkwardness, shyness, lack of courage and self-confidence to communicate properly. For women in mature age the reason sometimes is somewhat unpleasant personality which develops after some failures in earlier life – for example, self-pitying, whining about that life is unfair, strong sense of entitlement.
Your child needs your unconditional love and support at this time because you need to find out why he or she does not want to go to school. You need to be empathetic and perhaps tell your child that you are trying to understand so that you can help him or her. If you felt the same way one time share that experience with your child. There are many reasons why your child does not want to attend and one that needs to be investigated is the possibility that he or she is being picked on or teased. You should make an appointment with his teacher to find out if there is any possibility that this is happening because bullying is often the reason. Unfortunately most of bullying that occurs takes place when no one is around but she or he may agree to keep an eye on your child to see if this is happening. Also ask that testing be done to see if he or she has the ability to keep up with classmates. Perhaps your child needs extra help.
Firstly, find out why your child doesn’t want to go to school. Often times parents jump to conclusions, and take a firm stance with their children when they might be needing some compassion and support. On the outside it might seem like your child is just being lazy, but there could be a whole lot going on that is causing them to refuse to go to school. School isnt meant to exactly be a fun magical place that children love to go, but if everything normal it should be bearable and there can be some enjoyment in getting to see friends. That means that if everything is going normally at school a kid is probably going to find school a bit annoying but not such a bad thing that they will refuse to go. There could be a lot of different things affecting your child.