Red flags are negative behaviors that tell you someone isn’t always what they portray themselves to be.
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Red flags are negative behaviors that tell you someone isn’t always what they portray themselves to be.
Perfection is a red flag for me. No way, nobody is. If someone is too good to be true, it’s not true. Manipulators are excellent at molding themselves to exactly what they think you want. You will never know who they really are, and after having done so much for you they might feel like you owe them something, and you just might feel like you do too- and that’s how they reel you in. It’s also harder to leave someone who you think is absolutely perfect- you remember how great it was in the beginning, and you miss and want that, so you try your hardest to get it back. After investing so much time to making it work, it’s harder to leave. Nobody is perfect, and if they’re trying to make you believe they are it could just be a harmless case of insecurity, or it could be something else lurking below the surface. Patience and understanding are honorable traits, but they’re never, ever upset, even when the situation warrants it, that’s not a good sign. If they’re not speaking up about what’s bothering them that will inevitably get in the way of honest dialogue later. You can only keep things in for so long before they start to cause a problem.
There are a lot of red flags to watch out for in a relationship or before relationship even starts. Personally, I love going on dates with my ladies, Ladies because I’ve dated quite a number of ladies so I think I’m in a good place to actually answer this question. The most important thing I watch out for is how my date treats people who are lesser than her, for example; the security persons, waiter, attendants, and the likes. Her attitude to these set of people definitely will say a lot about the kind of person she is. Once I see that her attitude to that category of workers is bad, I take that as a red flag and move on.