Actually, these red flags are always not noticed. When you see such red flags in your partner, you two can easily talk about it and work it out. Not seeing these red flags early enough can destroy such relationships.
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Actually, these red flags are always not noticed. When you see such red flags in your partner, you two can easily talk about it and work it out. Not seeing these red flags early enough can destroy such relationships.
From my personal experience, I can’t keep up with someone who can’t seem to make their own independent decisions. Letting friends or family control their life. If they accept their family or friends manipulating or blackmailing them into surrendering control of the relationship, you can bet this will be a way of life. Partners who won’t demand independence in running their own love life won’t fight for your relationship when you need them to, and there won’t be stability if everything must be approved by mother and father or their circle of friends. You won’t have a partner, you’ll have a child in the body of an adult. Likewise, people who let their friends speak for them or make decisions for them are too unstable to be trusted and to embark on romances with. I had an ex who let his friend direct everything, including how often we could see each other. The friend took great delight in “grounding” him from seeing me and in ruining planned dates by insisting on tagging along, and also wanted to know every detail of what we did when he wasn’t there to supervise my boyfriend and I. I don’t care to date a puppet so that ended very fast.
When your partner is constantly complaining bitterly or ranting about their ex, reciting everything the ex did wrong or telling you what a rotten person the ex was, take it as a red flag. This indicates they have many unresolved issues and aren’t over their previous relationships, which will interfere with their ability to commit to you.
Showing excessive anger or hostility, or violence. These are serious red flags that indicate a person is extremely unstable and could hurt you. Get away fast. If someone is screaming at the waiter rather than politely pointing out the error, or having a meltdown at the theatre because the film is sold out, they are probably going to be verbally abusive and degrading to you, and this often escalates.
Not taking no for an answer. This comes up often with sex but in other matters too. If you say no and they continue asking “Please? Come on? Just try it okay?” or become angry at your refusal, they don’t respect boundaries. There is a real risk they will eventually force themselves on you or attack you physically. Disrespecting your boundaries in other ways is also a red flag. No relationship can function when there isn’t respect.