These are the thing that can either strengthen or weaken your marriage. They are what predict long-term success in marriage or dissolution.
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These are the thing that can either strengthen or weaken your marriage. They are what predict long-term success in marriage or dissolution.
Know that things are going to change. You are going to change. Your mate is going to change. Growth is change. Getting to know each other needs to be an ongoing process. We have a tendency to relate to people based on memory. To keep intimacy vibrant, it needs to be based on who two people are now, not who they were. So, stay curious. Be resilient. Be prepared to be surprised. If you’re truly relating, you’ll surprise one another from time to time throughout your lives together.
That love, in the sense of a marriage, is a verb, not a feeling. The feeling of being in love will come and go, many times. It will be strong, it will be weak, it will be nonexistent. And then it will change again. The decision to act in a loving manner is a decision that should be made many times, every day, regardless of how you are feeling. Even if you are angry, you should decide to express that anger in a spirit of sharing, willingness to compromise, willingness to consider the other side of the story, and willingness to resolve the problem together.