Would you go ahead to marry your partner if your or their parents do not consent to the marriage?
Rhoda AlisonNew You
Should you still marry your partner even though your parents are not consenting?
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Marriage is for adults, and allowing your parents to control you is for children. If you’re still doing the latter, you haven’t got the maturity for the first. Lots of parents would try to stop marriages just based on the other person’s wealth or status or race or something like that. Some people are just snobs and bigots, and some of these people are parents. Are people supposed to have their lives ruined because mum and dad are backward thinkers? I don’t understand why anyone would be willing to marry someone who was begging permission from their parents. Don’t most people want to marry an adult, and not an overgrown infant? I can’t imagine anything more off putting really.
If you are not of legal age to marry without their permission, then you either have to get it or wait until you are older. Their objection might be you are too young to marry, rather than they don’t want you to marry a certain person. If parents object to your intended, they should be able to give a valid reason why – for example the other person has a criminal record, or is known to be violent. I did not ask my mother’s permission to marry. I told her that my boyfriend had proposed and I had accepted. She had doubts about us marrying, because she thought at 21 I was not mature enough, and also because my boyfriend was physically disabled. She overcame her reservations about him, because of his personality, and also because he was hardworking and a good provider.