My girlfriend just put to bed, but as much as we decided to keep the pregnancy, we are not so sure about keeping our baby. We want the baby but we might not be financially capable to take care of her. What should we do?
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My girlfriend just put to bed, but as much as we decided to keep the pregnancy, we are not so sure about keeping our baby. We want the baby but we might not be financially capable to take care of her. What should we do?
Take your time. Figure out whether you’re fully ready and fully capable. Be willing to ignore those people who say “good parents don’t give away their babies.” The truth is that good parents do what is best for their baby even if it bucks convention. If the thought of someone else raising your child sits wrong with you, there is plenty of help available for you. If the idea of placing your child into arms that are aching for a child seems like a win-win-win, then know that there are women like me who are eternally in your debt and grateful for your love and selflessness. I only ask that you don’t make the decision until you are absolutely certain because you don’t want your parenthood and your child’s birth to be a source of grief, a wound that never fully heals, for anyone.
In order to know if adoption is the best for your child, you really to check yourself thoroughly; educate yourself- there are multiple types of adoption, some of which allow you a fair amount of access to your child throughout his/her life and some of which make it very difficult for you to have any involvement. Ask yourself if you really want to parent a child. Are you ready for sleepless nights, teething, temper tantrums, homework, saying no to things you want to do because they’re not in your child’s best interest, having your plans changed at the last minute because the babysitter flakes out or your child spikes a fever, hormones, teenage drama, etc, etc? Are you ready for that? Can you handle that without making your child pay emotionally? It’s a sign of maturity to admit that your answer is no and there are thousands of people out there seeking the opportunity to experience those very things. Do you have family support? How deep does your support go? Is Grandma always available in a pinch or only if she doesn’t have to work or have a date herself? Is the birth father’s family willing to step up as well. all these have to be in great consideration when you are considering adoption.