My therapist never stops using my trigger word during our sessions. She claims it will help me recover faster, but I don’t see that playing out. I’ve told her to stop severally, but she never stops. Should I stop seeing her?
Should I stop seeing my therapist if she continues using my trigger word even after telling her to refrain?
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You are a solid being who should be triggered into some funny actions by ordinary words or something. When you get easily triggered it shows you exactly the part of yourself you need to change. That is the therapist’s role; now it is your turn to do fulfill your role in this therapeutic relationship: Pay attention and learn from your reaction. Feel it, experience it, understand why it is an issue for you and ask for help about how to respond in a way that will improve your entire life. Your therapist is there to talk about every weird big and small feelings or idea that these triggers bring to you. Be smart with the sessions.
The job of therapists is to help you build yourself against whatever triggers you, isn’t that the purpose of seeing them in the first place?
Therapists are fallible humans, and they very often will not know in advance which particular words or phrases are triggering to you. It is up to you to let the therapist know about any distress that you feel in relation to something that is said to you. In addition, at some point during therapy, the therapist will undoubtedly attempt to help you explore the reasons why certain phrases act as emotional triggers and help you to sever the ties between the triggers and your negative psychological reactions. This may entail the use of some triggers during therapy, but you should always let the therapist know if you are feeling overwhelmed.