I opened to my parents and they’ve been dragging me to see a therapist like I’m suffering from some psychological disorder. How do I make them understand the fact that I’m just attracted to people of same gender, I am mentally stable.
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I opened to my parents and they’ve been dragging me to see a therapist like I’m suffering from some psychological disorder. How do I make them understand the fact that I’m just attracted to people of same gender, I am mentally stable.
It is definitely not, and I feel it is illogical to even assume so. I am a straight female and I’ve never been attracted to the same sex; not physically, emotionally, or sexually. I could not “force” myself to like or fall in love with someone of the same sex. Same goes for homosexuals, they didn’t ask to be the way they are, they just are. It’s already destined for them. Most homosexuals that I have spoken with said they already knew they felt different at a very young age. A straight person does not and cannot control who they find of the opposite sex to be attractive. It’s instinctive for us to automatically feel an attraction towards whoever we find appealing. You know the feeling you get upon first seeing someone, the feeling that speaks subconsciously, your brain saying “hey that one is attractive, they are someone who I would like to talk to and get to know, someone that may be a potential mate”. It’s already hardwired in the brain to automatically respond to that, it’s one of the few animalistic behaviors that we still have that is innate. It’s an old “survival tactic”, if that makes sense, that humans have carried for thousands of years. Well, all of the above also applies to homosexuals as well. They cannot avert an instinctive, innate behavior. So their mind works the same as a straight person’s when it comes to attraction, it’s just that their attraction is to the same sex. Do you think a straight person would try to intentionally force themselves to be attracted to the same sex? Of course not, because that’s impossible; it doesn’t work that way! So, think of that from a homosexual’s perspective. They simply cannot force themselves to be attracted to the opposite sex. Their brain works just the same as a straight person’s. The only difference is that they find the same sex attractive. They aren’t sick, mentally ill, or anything of the sort; that’s simply nonsense!
Homosexuality was once considered a mental disorder. Frequently, health professionals would study homosexuals in prison or in mental hospitals. And, guess what, they found they were in significant distress or impaired in personal functioning. Not really genius level work there.
In those days, it was not uncommon to treat homosexuality with brain surgery or castration as well as other forms of torture. But as more and more people began to do more careful studies, and they realized that homosexuality did not fit the definition of impairment in personal functioning. In fact, they found that despite the hate and discrimination, homosexuals were establishing stable couples and raising happy families. They have successful careers and achieved high levels of education. They were not sick at all in any way. I frequently read rants where people insist that gay people should get help and seek psychiatric assistance. No credible mental health professional will treat gayness as an illness. Let me restate that for emphasis. No credible mental health professional will treat gayness as an illness.