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My daughter accidentally forgot her phone at home and I went through it, only to find lots of her nude pictures and videos. I’m really worried but more surprised, I’ve never thought of her doing something like that. Should I delete the nudes?
Unfortunately, this has become a fairly common occurrence. I was just talking with a guidance counselor at a very well respected middle school. She told me that every year now there is some kind of problem with preteen kids exchanging inappropriate pictures of themselves. I think the best approach is to explain to her that you understand that this is a time when a lot of kids are experimenting with their emerging sexuality. It is totally normal to wonder and think about sexuality at this point. Phones, the internet, and pictures, can feel like they exist in an imaginary world, not the real world, but actually, the things we do online have real-world consequences. These consequences can be serious, dangerous, or just down-right embarrassing. This conversation is an opportunity for you to lay the groundwork for her to trust you. You want to be sure that she comes to you with questions about sexuality in the future. She still needs your help.
This is a sign of an adult or older teenager talking to her! Have a talk with her about her body being for her and a special person she is to choose when she grows older. Ask her if she has a boyfriend/girlfriend. If she says yes, ask their age. A lot of kids don’t know it’s wrong, so, unless the person told her not to tell, she will probably tell you. If you still don’t have an answer, go through her social media apps. Only go through the chat with the person she is sending these pictures to, and don’t read every message. If you find their age and they’re above the age of consent wherever you live, you can report them to the authorities. If they did something without consent, you can report them. You can also report them for child pornography.