Would you have a premarital investigation on before marrying your partner? Before saying “I do”, it is important to secure your future by getting to know the person you’re about to marry. How important is this to you?
How important is the family background and knowing the past life of your spouse before getting married to them?
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It is extremely important because it going to influence your relationship with your spouse and his family. When you have the idea what going on with his past or the way him or her being raised, you basically will know what kind of person he or she is. Maybe not 100% accurate but so how, whatever happened in the past is going to shape their personalities in the future. Therefore, you can make wise decision either to continue your plan to marry him/her or if you decided to proceed, you aware what situation are you in. Take for example, if you are going to marry someone that been raised in the broken home, you will understand the pattern of their behaviour is due to traumatic event. The negative impact from the lack of emotional support during their childhood life. As a spouse, you will know how to provide them emotional and psychological support that they need to live normally. If you going to marry someone who cheated their former spouse in the previous relationships, you definitely will prepare yourself well as sometimes, the history repeats itself. Equip ourselves with the knowledge on how to handle our spouse, try to work the marriage and create good home for a family.
It is important to understand where your spouse is coming from, as an indicator of what you might expect in future. If you don’t have this information and understanding it can create all kinds of issues. Someone from a large and gregarious family would have difficulty understanding the solitary nature of an only child, for example.
One of the most difficult to negotiate is financial disparity. If one partner has never had to consider costs, it is very daunting for one who has had to count every penny twice, and it can create great friction if one spends without thought while the other tries to save for the future. Even simple things, like what kind of food you are used to, or what clothes you wear, can be difficult to sort out. If previous romantic relationships are a possible item of contention, they need to be discussed openly or else both agree to pull a curtain over the past and NEVER refer to them again. But this is much easier said than done, especially in moments of stress, when either one is likely to use the past as a weapon. It is essential to sort these issues out before marrying, so that neither has a wrong impression of the other’s expectations and needs. And it can take a lot of negotiation and willingness to be more considerate of each other and to be prepared to compromise. If you aren’t able or prepared to compromise, either postpone or cancel the wedding, because this situation can be a marriage killer.