Sometimes, a person might feel they didn’t go through enough grief before they snapped back to their regular life after losing a loved one. When someone feels this way, how can they overcome this feeling?
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Sometimes, a person might feel they didn’t go through enough grief before they snapped back to their regular life after losing a loved one. When someone feels this way, how can they overcome this feeling?
The questions that people ask when faced with such circumstances, may take on misplaced responsibility saying Why them and not me? I should have told then to slow down. If I had been a better friend I could have saved them. This is a situation where due to bereavement, emotions override logic. Bereavement counselors are the best people to speak to and to help you to recognise that your feelings are simply part of the grieving process and can help you to overcome them. When they are so intense that you cannot function a psychiatrist may be the answer.
I was taught guilt is anger that we are afraid to direct at the offending party so we turn it inward. Knowing this I can write a letter about my anger and that dissipates the guilt. When my sister was killed, I felt guilty I wasn’t there to keep her from taking a ride from her killer and that I hadn’t phoned her more. When I switched to focusing my anger to driver, my sister’s choices and likely participation in the street-racing it helped get me out of the guilt loop.