How do you stay in an abusive relationship? my boyfriend slaps me and beats me at the slightest provocation, I love him but I cant endure it for long
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You will need to decide whether you are going to focus your energy on saving the relationship or on preparing yourself for leaving the situation and perhaps ending the relationship completely. Even though a good therapist will not make your decision for you, they can help you to better understand what you really want and need.
Here is an exercise that can help you in making a decision.
List all your reasons for wanting to stay in the relationship.
List all your reasons for not wanting to stay.
There is never a good reason to stay in an abusive relationship. I know where you come from, because I didn’t want to leave my abusive ex-husband as well. He was very intelligent, financially decently placed, loved by other people, horrible in bed (I was okay with that), and more importantly I loved him, or so I thought. I could never take a decision to divorce him, until he filed for divorce, as I refused to return to his place (which was in another country), because he threatened me so much. this made me so scared and took so much from my life, I couldn’t grow or succeed as ultimately there was a backlash but I made it out and that is the best thing I have done in 6 years.