My social anxiety causes me to act weird around people, and there is this urge— to leave the midst of people— I get anytime I’m around people, even family members. How do I get over this?
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My social anxiety causes me to act weird around people, and there is this urge— to leave the midst of people— I get anytime I’m around people, even family members. How do I get over this?
When I was young I was more than a bit shy, I was afraid of people. If approached I was polite but I could not make eye contact and could barely speak above a whisper. I tried to make friends, sometimes I was accepted but then overlooked because I was so quiet. After high school, I worked up enough courage to attend a small college. There too I was often overlooked. Some things did improve during my college years, I got to where I could make eye contact and speak above a whisper. Then came the time I was dreading graduation. After graduation it was time to find a job. Interviewers are not impressed by people who are too nervous to sit still. After several dozen nausea inducing interviews I finally relaxed enough to convince someone to take a chance on hiring me. Finally working I had no choice but to talk to my boss and coworkers. Over the years I managed to project enough of an air of confidence to seize opportunitys for advancement. Surprisingly with every raise and promotion my confidence increased, and so did my ability to interact with complete strangers. It was not something I noticed, but one day a very close friend told me she was proud of how far I had come over the years. That is why my advise to you is give yourself time, in the meantime take advantage of opportunities that come along to broaden your horizons and continue to grow and advance.
If they are a tennager then being caught smoking.drinking, taking drugs, having under age sex they need to know the consequences, the impact it will have on their long-term health, their career, their relationships.
No matter how you discipline your child, there is always someone outside the family that may attempt to ruin all your hard work. That uncle who comes to visit now and again, happy and easy going with a beer in his hand, will be enough to make your child think that drinking is cool and that his uncle is doing okay with a beer in his hand. Or the family friend— who talks about how her latest medication from her doctor makes her feel fantastic and she is no longer unhappy— will set your child thinking pills are the answer to everything.
How you behave, reflects how your children will turn out. If you shout and argue down the phone or to your partner, your children will think its ok to do it, especially if the rant gets results.
What you need might just to learn some communication skills and relationship strategies.
Sometimes, we get our signals crossed or make assumptions about others that are incorrect. When you have these skills you know what to look for in people and how to interact with them successfully. And, we all know that success breeds success, which leads to better self-esteem and your ability to attract the type of people that are going to appreciate you.
The good thing is that you can learn these skills and practice them easily.