Insecurity is that underlying emotion that overwhelmingly shapes our self-image and influences our behavior. it’s that emotion that makes us wish we could access other people’s minds.
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Insecurity is that underlying emotion that overwhelmingly shapes our self-image and influences our behavior. it’s that emotion that makes us wish we could access other people’s minds.
There’s no really best way, but here’s one that’s helped me, funnily enough- Stop seeking validation. You’d think it’d be the opposite; you get more validation, you feel more secure. But in reality, your mind wants to keep checking again. And again. And again. You have to keep checking back, and all the while every time in between checking the anxiety grows. When I actively kept asking for validation, or when I kept googling for answers, I found that it got to the point of obsession and it only worsened my insecurity. Once I stopped looking for those answers, once I allowed myself just to be, I started feeling less anxious over time. This fits in line with a tried therapy method of mindfulness meditation. Mindfulness meditation is all about living in the moment, allowing yourself to feel, allowing yourself to be, rather than seeking a quick end to the feeling and thus ruminating. In other words, the best way to stop feeling insecure is, ironically enough, just allowing yourself to feel insecure without doing anything about the feeling other than acknowledging it and having it there.
If there’s a problem going on, just do something about the problem instead of thinking too much on it. You feel like you’re not getting enough affection from a friend or a significant other? Just outright ask for more. You want to write but you feel like everyone’s going to hate your writing? Just go ahead and write anyway. You want to go to a party but you feel like you’re going to stand out and make a fool out of yourself? Go anyway. You have a performance coming up and you think you’re going to bomb it? Practice it right now, out loud, not in your head, instead of worrying about it, and then let come what may when it does happen. Let yourself experience things and don’t let the insecurity or the need to immediately scrub it out hold you back. The more you do this, the more confident you will become.
Feelings should not be something to be avoided. Feelings are part of what makes us human; it’s a good thing to experience them, so long as you don’t let them cripple your ability to live your life.
Feeling insecure is an extremely common emotion that everyone experiences at some point in their life. Many of us feel as though we are not good enough, we do not measure up to others, we cannot do anything right. I’m not sure how your insecurity manifests itself, but it can cause us to distance ourselves from others. If you are having feelings of insecurity then these are fueled by your thoughts, by the internal dialogue that you have with yourself all day long.
It helps to identify the negative thoughts you are having about yourself and how those thoughts are effecting your relationships and causing you to feel as though others will abandon you. Also, challenge and replace those thoughts with the truth about yourself. I do not know if you are a Christian, but I know in my own life, when I have experienced times of insecurities about myself I read and memorize different Bible texts that show me who I am according to our Creator, Jesus. This always help me put my thoughts in order and find my security in Him.
Insecurities are likely to always pop up, but if you learn to take control of your thoughts I believe you will find that you are more secure in yourself and your relationships.