Constantly, I keep hurting myself because I expect too much from people. I think I expect too much from because I am willing to do so for them too and because of that, I guess I must’ve positioned myself so high in their life.
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Constantly, I keep hurting myself because I expect too much from people. I think I expect too much from because I am willing to do so for them too and because of that, I guess I must’ve positioned myself so high in their life.
If you can depend on yourself in any situation, you’ll stop expecting so much from others because you won’t need to.
If they don’t live up to your expectations, you will be able to rid yourself of them or overlook their faults. You don’t need anyone else to make you happy, to do things for you, to continue on in life. You may want someone for those things, but you don’t need them. Being self-reliant is a great thing. It allows you to get to know people for who they are, not what they can do for or give you. It opens your eyes so you can see past the material and look into their selves.
Sometimes we expect from people when we think they have the capacity of giving us the things we want. Be it a compliment, a promise, love or appreciation. And when we misjudge their capacities it leads us to the disappointments.
So an effective way to avoid this would be being open to witness their true capacities without any comparisons to yours. Before setting your expectations, try to understand if that person holds similar mindset as yours to fulfill your expectations or at least have an ability to understand your expectations and work on them.
If the answer is no then you will automatically refrain from expecting anything out of that person. Because it will be unfair to loose people just because they failed in doing things you wanted them to do when they had no ability for it. So my advice will be, you cannot stop expecting things from people completely but you can control who deserves to be on your expectation list. This will definitely make the chances of disappointment slimmer.