I told my grandma my dad brought another woman home when mom was away on a trip. He doesn’t know that I know about it. Grandma wants me to keep it with me and never tell my mom. In her words “some things are better left unsaid”.
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I told my grandma my dad brought another woman home when mom was away on a trip. He doesn’t know that I know about it. Grandma wants me to keep it with me and never tell my mom. In her words “some things are better left unsaid”.
There is high probability your mom already knows that your dad is cheating on her. While it is painful, it isn’t up to you to announce that to your mom. It also isn’t your fault that your dad is doing what he’s doing. This is just something he has decided to do along the way. Chances are, he won’t stop. He also knows that it is wrong.
Unfortunately, I don’t happen to have a great answer as to what you should do. There is high chance that they will sort things between themselves, and your grandma isn’t entirely wrong with her position on the issue.
I think you should talk to your dad first to know if he’s truly having an affair or not. Maybe what you think is accurate or maybe it’s an incorrect assumption. If it’s correct, tell him that he needs to work out their relationship issues with your mom. Explain that it is not fair to expose you to those types of issues because you love and care for them both. After you have that conversation, assess what you do next. I can say that in many cases, partners and spouses often know when someone is unfaithful. They may be ignoring the signs. They may be unwilling to address the issues. They may be hoping the behavior or activity stops. It is not fair, in any way, for you to suspect or know about a parent’s potential or actual infidelity. They should be keeping those types of issues private and confidential. They also have a responsibility to themselves, and you, to resolve any marital issues to the best of their ability.