Isn’t it my choice to date whoever I wish to date? Why does my decision to date a girl from a particular race have influence on how the society sees me?
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Isn’t it my choice to date whoever I wish to date? Why does my decision to date a girl from a particular race have influence on how the society sees me?
Not necessarily. It solely depends on the reason why you wouldn’t want to do that. Some people just don’t like darker shades, while others prefer dark skin. I know white people who only date black people purely for personal aesthetics, and I also know men of color who only date white women, all without any trace of racism.
Just taste. I guess there’s also many people who prefer slim partners, and several women I have met swore never to date men who are shorter than themselves.
It depends on if you don’t want to date black people because dark skin or a certain physical feature turns you off sexually, that’s totally understandable. You have no obligation to date someone who doesn’t satisfy you. That’s not racism—as long as you have specifically determined you don’t want to date each black person you meet because you’ve evaluated their traits and make sure to consider black people as individuals and not as a single entity.
If you don’t want to date black people because you feel they’re inferior to you, or you think they have a personality trait you don’t like, or something that you ascribe to their entire race as if they’re some kind of hive-mind clone entity, that’s racism. Racism is ascribing— usually negative— traits to an entire race or viewing an entire race as inferior to you.