I stopped dating and having sex with people in 2016, due to personal reasons. I’ve never really had a boyfriend or long term relationship, it’s always been just casual intimacy like friends with benefits. After my last, I thought about why I was doing this, I was good for the sex but not good enough to keep? It made me really feel bad about myself, started having low self esteem, like I wasn’t good enough. So, the urge went away and I got over everything. Often times, when I tell people this, especially guys, hey ask if I’m a nun or asexual. I am not asexual and my decision isn’t based on religion, not at all. Men often see themselves as that which compliment a lady. I believe they’re not at fault, it’s the society. The society has a way of dealing with single ladies without kids, hence why men feel the way they do. Ever since, I feel free, I’m engaged in different activities. Most importantly, no more urge to feel accomplished by a man’s touch or man’s presence in my life.