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Would you date someone who was abused and traumatized in the past but they’re still yet to deal with it?
Trauma survivors often believe deep down that no one can really be trusted, that intimacy is dangerous, and for them, a real loving attachment is an impossible dream. Many tell themselves they are flawed, not good enough and unworthy of love. Thoughts like these can wreak havoc in relationships throRead more
Trauma survivors often believe deep down that no one can really be trusted, that intimacy is dangerous, and for them, a real loving attachment is an impossible dream. Many tell themselves they are flawed, not good enough and unworthy of love. Thoughts like these can wreak havoc in relationships throughout life.
See lessCertainly it will create problems known as “emotional labor” and only understanding can solve. The non-traumatized person will have to learn what emotional triggers to avoid, and the traumatized person will have to accept that his or her partner will sometimes unintentionally say something insensitive or triggering.
I mean, if the non-traumatized partner uses the emotional vulnerability of the person who’s been through trauma to manipulate or harass the partner, the non-traumatized partner is an abusive jerk who the traumatized partner should leave but otherwise, such relationships can work if both parties are willing to work.
Having lived all my life in India, I just got transferred to Finland from work, how difficult will it be for me to adjust to the new environment?
It is a very good country to live . Finland is one of the safest country . You will find many Indians and will not feel left alone. Finland is one of the best places to live on earth with less crime rates , good government benefits including health, education and so on. One thing you might need to uRead more
It is a very good country to live . Finland is one of the safest country . You will find many Indians and will not feel left alone. Finland is one of the best places to live on earth with less crime rates , good government benefits including health, education and so on. One thing you might need to understand that having a maid is kind of Indian luxury which you may have to give up and start working on cooking, cleaning, washing dishes by your own unless you are are super rich. It may be hard to get to know people and create social circles outside working life. Also the cost of living is considerably higher here, so one person’s salary may not support the lifestyle you may expect. If you have small children and you stay home to take care of them, then the easiest way to meet people is to get to know other stay-at-home parents in the neighborhood. If the job is located in the capital area, it’ll be easier to adapt. If the company is located in a smaller city or more peripheric part of the country you are more likely to face some prejudice or blatant racism from random encounters with people. It’s also easier to get away from Helsinki than the rest of the country if you want to take a break of the gloomy silence and feel like a weekend trip or short holiday to other European locations. The climate will be a shock, but the houses are warm. If you enjoy outdoor acivities or exploring nature, there are plenty of opportunities. In all, Finland is a very beautiful place to be.
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