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Is it possible for someone to not have any talent or skill they’re really good at?
You have to know that everyone with a talent worked for it. The only reason you don’t have talents is that you haven’t worked for them. No one just “possesses” talents, like it’s a watch or a cell phone, something they could buy, receive as a gift, or keep in their pocket. People gain talents througRead more
You have to know that everyone with a talent worked for it. The only reason you don’t have talents is that you haven’t worked for them.
See lessNo one just “possesses” talents, like it’s a watch or a cell phone, something they could buy, receive as a gift, or keep in their pocket.
People gain talents through practice, and if they stop practicing, they can lose them.
I can draw, for example, and today it may appear that I just “possess” that talent. But I can draw because I spent hundreds of hours during my childhood drawing. If I don’t draw for a long time, I’m not as good when I come back to it.
It’s also never to late to develop a talent, but the key is always to put in the work. I learned to play the guitar at 29 years old, and I did it by practicing, for hundreds of hours.
Some talents take a long time to develop. I learned to write and research over decades of doing it. My first papers were, to put it mildly, very bad. Now I think I write well. But as with everything I do, I always work to get better. People who are good at things never did what you’re doing to yourself: they never told themselves they were not good at something, they told themselves they weren’t good at it yet.
With practice, you can have any talent you want. You’re being too hard on yourself. You can do anything if you put your mind to it.
What do you want to be? An artist? A scientist? A musician? Whatever it is, go work at it. Just because you can’t do something now doesn’t mean you won’t be able to do it later. That’s what learning is. Go draw a shitty picture, but don’t say “I’m a bad artist” because you drew a bad picture. Instead, draw another one, and you’ll see, it will be better. Draw more after that, and they’ll get better too. Read books about how to draw, take lessons, get tips from pros.
If you only draw one picture, see that it’s really bad, and then tell yourself you suck and quit, you will always suck. If you draw another and try to do better, you will do better. Keep doing that over and over, and eventually you’ll have find you just have a hand that works.
No skills are inborn, and there are no shortcuts to getting a new skill. Every person with a talent paid for that talent with time. No one is good at anything until they practice.
If you want a talent, stop telling yourself that you don’t have any talents; tell yourself that you don’t have any talents yet, then go put the work in to get one.
How do I convince my daughter who’s gone to live with her boyfriend to come back home?
You cannot stop her, well, I don’t know her age but if she’s almost the age where she’s able to make her own legal choices, there’s very little you can do. You could threaten to ‘cut her off’, or something childish like that, but it would only drive a larger rift between you. Or, maybe she’d comply,Read more
You cannot stop her, well, I don’t know her age but if she’s almost the age where she’s able to make her own legal choices, there’s very little you can do. You could threaten to ‘cut her off’, or something childish like that, but it would only drive a larger rift between you. Or, maybe she’d comply, and the pain in her, over her rights and feelings being controlled, immorally, by someone who isn’t her, would weigh on her for years. You are within your rights, to not want her to live with the boyfriend, unsupervised, as a minor. But, really, in the 21st century, even that would be a bit paranoid. In my opinion, you need to make peace with the future, right now, and stop trying to stop her from doing what she wants to do. My friend’s parents tried to force the issue, with a guy she was ‘merely dating’. It’s either him, or them, they said. Guess what happened? She married him.
See lessPlease, if you value your own sanity, and having a relationship with your daughter in the future, be supportive of her, now. I don’t care how painful it seems. Just respect her decisions.