While the news of their romance came to light only this week, the two have been hanging out for a while. They have been seeing each other for several weeks. Kanye has been flying in and out of New York to be with her. Kanye and Irina have known each other for years through the fashion industry. They were connected through their mutual friend group. I don’t see anything about about so far the relationship doesn’t affect his kids and Irina’s child in the process.

Violating someone’s privacy is never okay. If you feel compelled to do this, there are deeper issues you need to pay attention to. Lack of trust, for example. People are individuals, even in relationships. They text their mom or friends, they have work emails and messaging, and they are allowed to have spaces that are not yours. If you feel the urge to snoop, think hard about what you’re looking for, and why. You shouldn’t need to verify that someone is being faithful to you, or check how they are conducting themselves. So, when you want to check someone’s phone, please rethink that. There is a better way to address this urge – have the hard conversations. It might be that you already know what you are going to find and are just looking for proof. It might be that you just have fears because you’ve been burned before. It might be that you are with a really great person, but just feeling insecure and need assurance. Either way, there’s never a reason to violate someone’s private space. Be better than that. Calling it snooping sounds so minor, but the breach of privacy is not. Good relationships are built on trust, not violation and sneaking around.