People, including parents often underestimate the power of their words on kids. They forget that what they say to a child will define his or her world. Their words become the way a child speaks to himself. Shaming is anything any older person says that makes a child feel terrible about themself. It is an, often unintended, assault on their sense of identity. Child shaming can range from Why can’t you be more like your sister? Why are you so dramatic? Do you want me to give you a real reason to cry about? The choices you are making will ruin your life. The opposite of shaming would be to be respectful. To be supportive. To be encouraging.

It’s possible to discipline a child without bringing into question their competence, or their sovereignty.

Probably because you look good, wear nice quality and stylish clothes, shoes and accessories. I know rich people and no matter what high end designer they wear, they do not always look great. Other people may wear just a regular fashion item and they wear it well, looking like a million buck. I don’t see any harm in it, you can simply consider it a compliment. People may be jealous of you, but that’s what happens when you always look good, carry yourself well, show confidence, groom yourself and speak some amount of charisma and intelligence. It’s generally meant to be a positive thing but can get awkward.