It has never really worked. You just need to understand that family love is unconditional at times. You can set your limitations, but that doesn’t always work either. So you need to decide what you are willing to invest. I threw out the scorecard a long time ago…I love them, they are messed up, I limit my time with them to keep it positive and have a reason to leave before it gets ugly. It is better when you have someone you can easily lean on during this period. Sub that if you’d be cutting off your folks, you could lean on such person as the loneliness will always hit you. But at the end of it all, it’s always worth your peace.