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What are the careless decisions that can completely ruin one’s life?
Not listening to my instinct to stop a relationship. That was the wrongest decision I ever made, not listening to myself. I was brainwashed, gas lighted, whatever correct past tense form of that word is, and abused. Assaulted regularly, even hit across the face once, physically blocked from leavingRead more
Not listening to my instinct to stop a relationship. That was the wrongest decision I ever made, not listening to myself.
See lessI was brainwashed, gas lighted, whatever correct past tense form of that word is, and abused. Assaulted regularly, even hit across the face once, physically blocked from leaving a hotel room, lied to, coerced, given severe anxiety, depression, and PTSD. And this could have all been prevented if I listened to and watched the first few red flags that popped up. The first night we slept together, after, he showered me with love saying I was the best thing in the world, wrote me a poem, and picked me flowers from his moms garden. I thought that was so sweet at the time. In retrospect, it was a huge red flag, now I know that’s called love bombing.
When his ex girlfriend talked smack about me to him and pretended to still be his friend, that was a red flag. When I had to call his sister to come pick him up because he was severely intoxicated, stumbling around my house, that was a red flag. When he got drunk again at my house and called me every offensive name in the book, that was a red flag. When he called me the next day asking to go skating and I told him, ‘no’ flat out and he asked why and manipulated and gaslit me into taking him back. I was still in my own house then. That was a red flag. There were so so many warning signs. But I had never ever met someone so manipulative in my entire life. I had never seen that kind of evil and I was totally unprepared with how to deal with. I questioned my own sanity. I questioned everything about myself. I was a shell of a woman when I finally got the courage to leave him. He absolutely ruined my life.
I became a raging alcoholic to deal with the pain and misery, because I didn’t know how to deal with my problems. I’m still recovering. I’ve been sober over a year and a half now but at what cost? I regret having ever met him. I regret after having gone home with him that night. I wish I had never talked to him again. I wish I had just got home and forgot about him. I wish I had stayed single and worked on myself. I wish I could have that time back.
Are there skills that are considered too hard or too late to learn as one grows older?
It is never too late to learn anything. The only time it’s too late is if you don’t start, the only limitations to our own growth and learning is our own belief system. If we think that way, we internalize that belief and never take action. However, if you strive to learn a little bit everyday and kRead more
It is never too late to learn anything. The only time it’s too late is if you don’t start, the only limitations to our own growth and learning is our own belief system. If we think that way, we internalize that belief and never take action.
See lessHowever, if you strive to learn a little bit everyday and keep your brain sharp through puzzles, games, walks and other brain enhancing activities you’ll find that learning is fun, rewarding and playful. And by keeping your brain sharp, then learning a new skill will be less of a barrier than you think. That’s worse than doing something and making the effort and it not working out. For me, I had an interest in learning computer coding but I thought it’d be too late for me. Two years ago, after leaving my job I took the time to research how to learn and focus on one language. Though, most people were younger than me and way ahead of me, I focused on learning for my own purposes rather than to compete and catch up to others. We can’t learn to catch up, we can only learn to grow and advance for our own self.