If you are a dependent minor, all you can do is just endure and survive until you can become an independent, self-supporting adult. If you are a teen and living with your parents, just try to do the chores expected of you without being nagged into it, and essentially treat your parents’ house like a dorm. You are there only to eat, sleep, get clean, do your required chores, and that’s it. Be around your parents as little as possible, but safely. Do your homework at school or at the library. Get a part-time job after school and start saving money for college, or to move into your own place when you turn 21.
Once you are a fully self-supporting, totally independent adult and you’re not living with your parents anymore, then you will be able to choose how much or how little you wish to see your parents or talk to them. You can call or visit, but the moment either of your parents begins attacking you emotionally/verbally, you will be able to just politely cut the visit or the phone call short. “I can tell that you don’t feel like having a visit/a call right now, so I’ll go/hang up now. Talk to you later. Bye.” You as an adult don’t have to just stick around and be your parent’s emotional punching bag, you can decide to just take your leave.
Even long after I’d reached adulthood I’d just sit there frozen as my mother would begin hurling vitriolic verbal abuse at me, as though I was a trapped, terrified child. When I finally realized that I could just leave, it was a big “light bulb” moment for me. In order to do that I had to achieve a certain emotional distance from mother; I had to stop craving her approval and attention, and stop caring what she thought of me. It was much healthier for me to emotionally distance myself from her.