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Basically my mum has been in a relationship with this guy for a while now, but me and my brother do not feel safe around him. He has had numerous previous convictions and tends to do illegal substances. But, when we once told my mom nothing happened so I don’t know if that is an option anymore.
You’re not overreacting. I think your mom doesn’t want to accept that what you’re saying is true because that would decimate how she sees him, and for whatever reason she thinks she needs to hold onto him. Put a lock on your doors and make plans to get out of there and live on your own with your brother if you can. Your mom is in denial and trying to sick up with him, that is so wrong, I’m sorry you have to deal with that! The best thing you can do is lay your foot down put him in his place and tell him to stop. You could try getting out of there, that’s your best option. If he does anything more over the line you should call the police, keep yours self safe. And your brother too!
If the behavior of your mom’s boyfriend is causing this strong a reaction in you, I am guessing your mother is aware of his harmful behavior. If his behavior is focused on you as a target and she has no idea why you would feel this way, you may need to explain to her what is going on that is making you feel this way. Depending on what your gut tells you she is going to react to hearing this, you may want to have a safety plan set up for yourself if there is a threat that he will retaliate if he finds out you talked to her, or if you think your mom will be hostile toward you. Your safety plan can include things like: where and when you can talk to her without the boyfriend around. An immediate exit strategy from wherever you talk to her if needed. A plan for who to talk to next if your mother does not take your concerns seriously, you could inform the police if he’s doing something criminal, make a child protection report to your county office if your mom does not keep you safe from him, tell a trusted adult about the situation. You deserve to feel safe in your own home. Your guardian has an obligation to make you feel safe in your own home as well. It may help to talk this out with a school counselor as well if you are still in school. Good luck, you can do this. Or, if the situation is too dangerous, get help from a trusted adult who can maybe help you have the conversation with your mom along side you.