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Sometimes, I regret having kids. I have three of them and I don’t know if this is normal. I stared having kids at quite a young age, and sometimes when I look at my children, there’s this regret that runs through me, like I shouldn’t have brought them to life.
Perhaps it was my own upbringing that makes parenting so difficult for me. I have a lot of triggers that are hard to control. As a child I was born in Romania and given up for adoption. Then I was adopted and given up again. I struggled with PTSD and other mental health issues including attachment disorders. i was not brought up in a loving home until I was 12years old. I wanted my children, but I am not so sure about my husbnd. He wanted them before having them, but has since expressed his regret. I think because nobody tells you how hard it’s truly going to be. There are of course times when it is very hard. Parenting children from 3–5 years of age has posed the most stressful. Often I wonder what my life would be like, but iceberg accepted my role as a mother and I love the good moments. I always try to remember that my children didn’t ask to be born, so taking out my frustrations on them because they are here and have changed my life is unfair to them.
I really don’t think I have regrets about having children. However the modern liberal feminist society does everything so the people will regret that. First of all, when our daugther was born, that was immediately used by mother of my wife to attack me personally and to distant me from the wife and from the children, quite successfully. Also, I know that many people experience large problems in bed after children were born, lots of mother dedicate whole their energy to children and there is not much left for the husband. I remember one American guy who married Russian women asking – “my son is already 7 years old and why is she still sleeping with him not with me”. Children are one major point against liberalism and feminism. Basically, children provide major advantage to women and quite enough of women use that advantage to abuse the relationships. Women may manipulate efficiently via possible detaching you from your child, for you not being careful enough – while it’s easy to manipulate that nobody is careful enough. Extra-high demands and no feedback.